What I Really Think of Your Playing
I have yet to find an adult student who isn’t nervous when they play for me, at least the first time. And I get it- I really do. Any time you’ve got someone’s undivided attention, particularly when that person is analyzing your actions, it’s natural to feel a little exposed. Add in the fact that you are by definition undertaking something outside of your comfort zone (the bravest and best part of taking lessons!), and sweaty palms make sense.
But I want to put a nail in the coffin of one common student fear. Make that tens of nails. Hundreds of nails. A nail-gun-gone-berserk number of nails.
It is never, ever a burden to listen to you play.
“You must get tired of listening to me,” I’ve had students say. Or, “I hope we're not ruining the piece for you.” “Can you really stand to listen to the repeat?” “I didn’t want to make you listen to any more of this.”
There are dozens of variations, but the core concern is the same: a sizable minority of students worry their playing is a chore.
I can’t think of anything further from the truth. Listening to a student or students play, no matter what the level is profoundly engaging and uniformly enjoyable. Because every time I listen, I’m confronting a fascinating challenge: How can I help this particular student or group of students make progress, both now and in the long term?
Working that out is pretty much the most captivating puzzle I know, and I immediately busy myself with a host of subsidiary questions. What knowledge or skills do students possess that I can build on? What should we select to work on? What can I say or do to best communicate the goal? How can I motivate the student toward the selected goal? How can I check for understanding of the improvement process? How will I develop the student’s ability to self-monitor? What personality or time or technical constrains might stand in the student’s way, and how can I mitigate them?
Listening to great music is pleasurable, sure. But it’s far more fun to dig into the challenge of helping you get better. And we can always improve- each of us, from the greenest beginner to the most virtuosic professional.
So please know this: Your teachers don’t get tired of listening to you play. We genuinely feel that it is a privilege to hear you.
And If I ever stop feeling that way, I hope I’m smart enough to take a break.